Practices library

Twelve plain-language guides to what people are actually into.

The archetype library is about how you connect. This is about what — the specific practices: restraint, impact, sensation, power exchange, configurations, social play, edge play and more. Each article is written for someone curious, not for someone already in the scene.

Configurations & partners

Who's in the room. Threesomes, couples play, unicorn dynamics, hotwife and stag-vixen framings, swinging, open and polyamorous structures.

18 practices · Read →

Social & venue

Where it happens. Public play parties, sex clubs, lifestyle events, dungeons, fetish nights, munches, and online play.

11 practices · Read →

Sex acts

Specific sex acts and what you like to give or receive. Plain language, no judgment, no right answers.

17 practices · Read →

Voyeur & exhibitionist

Watching and being watched, in person and on camera. Always within a consenting frame — voyeurism only works when everyone involved knows it's happening.

6 practices · Read →

Restraint & bondage

Restraining, being restrained, or limiting movement and the senses by mutual agreement. Rope, cuffs, blindfolds, gags, furniture, hoods.

11 practices · Read →

Impact

Striking parts of the body with a hand or implement — usually the butt, thighs, back, or chest. Spanking, flogging, paddling, caning, crops, belts.

8 practices · Read →

Sensation play

Sharpening or contrasting physical sensation — heat, cold, vibration, pressure, fine points. Wax, ice, e-stim, pinwheels, nipple clamps, cupping.

9 practices · Read →

Power exchange & D/s

Negotiated dynamics where one partner takes a leading or owning role and the other follows or serves. Scene-only or 24/7, light or heavy, sexual or domestic.

14 practices · Read →

Roleplay & scenarios

Personas, scripted scenes, and fantasy framings. Strangers, authority figures, captivity scenes, medical, historical, monster — all adult, all consensual.

7 practices · Read →

Fetish & materials

Specific materials, body parts, and sensory cues that turn you on. Latex, leather, uniforms, lingerie, feet, hair, scent.

8 practices · Read →

Intimacy, talk & aftercare

How you like to be talked to, held, and cared for around sex. Praise, dirty talk, name-calling, begging, silent sex, long aftercare, cuddling.

9 practices · Read →

Edge play

Advanced

Practices with real injury or psychological risk. Knife play, needle play, breath play, fear play / CNC, blood play. Listing interest here is self-knowledge, not a recommendation to try unguided.

5 practices · Read →

Want a profile instead?

The interests quiz walks you through every practice listed in these articles, asks how you feel about each one, and groups your answers into a private inventory you can keep or share with a partner.