Exhibitionist

Exhibitionism, consensually, is the pleasure of being seen. For most people this is one trusted partner. For some, it includes agreed group or community contexts. The line is, again, the consent of everyone who might see — not just your own.

What it actually looks like

• Wanting your partner's attention on you — eye contact, narration, being watched while you do something.
• Feeling more present, not more performative, when you're seen.
• Choosing community spaces (parties, clubs) that have explicit norms about being seen.

What it isn't

• Not flashing strangers. Anyone you might "surprise" hasn't consented and is not part of your scene.
• Not a need to be looked at constantly. Most Exhibitionists are selective about when and by whom.
• Not the same as low self-esteem reaching for attention. The healthy version is grounded enjoyment, not validation-seeking.

Where it shows up well

Pairs naturally with Voyeurs, of course, and with attentive partners generally. Roleplayers who like "perform for me" frames often have strong Exhibitionist scores.

Common pitfalls

• Mistaking the absence of objection from bystanders for consent.
• Pushing past your own comfort because the watching feels good in the moment.
• Performing what you think the watcher wants rather than what you actually want to be seen doing.